Archive for August 2, 2012

Having Aspergers means that more things are out of your control than most people, therefore, you have to learn how to accept what you cannot change. This is a fustrating lesson and no matter how many times you think you have learnt it, it never gets much easier. Whether it’s with making friends impressing girls or getting stage time at one of the rooms doing comedy. A person can work hard to impress a girl but if they are not getting all the signals and information being transmitted the chances of success decrease drastically. In addition, sitting by the phone and hoping the girl will phone back is really a waste of time, but if you’re really interested and invested it is hard not to. It’s like in sports you can work hard spend more time in the gym than anyone else but in the end if you have Aspergers you are going to lose because of poor hand-eye-coordination that you were unforunately born with. In terms of comedy, you can kill it at open mics and you can go out to support all the local shows but unless the producers decide to put you in the show there is really nothing you can do. Which can be really fustrating when all you really want to do is get stage time to prove to everyone else that you are just as good as anybody else. Especially when you put all your effort into comedy to overcome for other shortcomings in your life but alas you still have no control of whether someone decides to put you up at Jeffries, the Cheer, or the King’s head. Those big bullies. All you can really do is try and change your attitude towards not being in control which is very difficult and often a losing battle. 

I guess it would be easier if you believed in destiny or a God who is actively involved in our lives. But for those who don’t it is all the more difficult but all you can do is try and hope everything works out.

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Eww gross Aspergers is on your face.. book. How disgusting is that. You can try and try to wash but you won’t be able to get Aspergers off of facebook.

It’s natural that people with Aspergers would like facebook as its a great equalizer in many ways. There is no secret body or tonal language to be read. What you mean when you write is as foggy or clear as you make it. Relationship status is clear, for the most part, therefore a person with Aspergers generally knows where they stand when they flirt with a girl. If we know how to flirt that is, as flirting is often misconstrued. (That’s a funny word, let’s all say it on the count of 3. 3… 2… 1… Misconstrued. Great, good job everyone, if you have done it right you should be laughing hysterically as well.) Its also much easier to make facebook friends than it is to make genuine friendships. Although, I want to jump up and down on the like button and crush it. When you give someone a compliment they shouldn’t just click “like” but should have to type in a quick message like thank you. I am pretty sure that the creator of Facebook Mark Zuckerberg had Aspergers, as he had many of the traits such as poor social skills, saying odd things, as well as obsessing over a narrow field where he could spend hours upon hours doing repetitive tasks.

Facebook, however, can also still suck for people with Aspergers. Make us feel like we are back in high school watching television, like Buffy the vampire slayer for hours instead of getting invited to the cool parties. How do we know we aren’t getting invited to the parties because facebook told us so. In the past we may have had suspicions that everyone else was at a party but now people are putting up status’s and picture’s from the parties that we never recieved the invite for. Is it better to just have suspicions or have actual proof, the answer there is quite clearly vague suspicions.

  It is also just another medium for me to make a fool of myself, and it’s easier to make a dumb fool of myself on facebook than it is when you actually have to pick up a phone or worse in terms of work. Plus everything is just way more public than it was in the past.

That is my two cents on facebook. Facebook has both its pros and cons just like everything else its just about knowing what they are that’s important.