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I have nothing against online dating, many people have met their partner this way. There is no less dignity to finding someone online as there is at the bar for those who are shyer and don’t have a way with their words. Dating a colleague is a major no-no and can only lead to trouble especially when everyone you work with is at least ten years your senior. I have asked my friends to keep their eyes open for single girls who they think would be a good fit for me most of the time they come up with a major blank. Maybe they are ashamed of me, maybe they are worried that their female friends will never look at them the same way again. Maybe they just don’t think anyone is good enough for me who can tell? But chances are its not the last one. That leaves several options such as taking a pottery class  or hoping that a girl will want to talk to me after my set and get to know a funny likeable guy. So far this has not happened, and I have been to busy with comedy for the former. I could hit on patrons who come into the library and check out their materials, but for one thing this is creepy for another thing it would probably ultimately end up costing me my job.

      Then there is online dating, I have a hard enough time making small talk in daily conversation with friends who are female, nevermind trying to read someones bio and pick out an aspect that I can make conversation about and they are usually quite clear they do not simply want small talk such as “hey” or “hi” or “what’s up?” Nor do they want something to forward and flirtatious which I have a hard time being in the first place. I simply do not want to scare them off, therefore, I don’t know what to write in that all important first message which breaks or makes a relationship. “Like nice Tattoo” “you like animals me too. What kind of dog do you have? I have a kern terrier?” or “so I see you like travelling where did you travel last to, what is your favourite destination?” feel free to use any of these lines I have and none of them have worked for me. “You like funny guys, I see well I am stand up comedian!” 

     Also all the girls have these really flirty pictures of themselves trying to look sexy but then they talk about how they are simple girls who only care about spending time with their families and friends. In addition, well I am photogenic enough I really don’t do sexy pictures well.  What am I supposed to do show them my flabby stomache where my rockhard abs are supposed to be?

      Another problem could be that I usually only contact pretty girls out of my league after reading their bios and in turn only get contacted by girls who don’t care about me as a person but want to date me because I am cute.

   People always think they have found the new best website for dating such as Jdate or another program but they are all equally bad as plenty of Fish.

In the meantime I can just sit by my computer at work and wait for a reply.

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Travel log 12:45 September 1st.

There is nothing like bed and sleeping, however sleeping in a foreign bed can be a challenge. Particularly if you have Aspergers and have a hard time with change. For example, a person gets used to the noises that come from outside their window. In my case it’s my neighbour’s radiator it sounds like a bzzzing sound like you would expect a light to make out in the country with all the flies flying towards it. In addition, sometimes there is my fan on inside the bedroom which makes a sh wsh sound as it goes round and round like two blades turning. When I was travelling, however, the noises were more of people having conversations outside of my window often in Spanish. The difference in sounds creates an uneasy tension that makes a person feel ready to jump out of bed and find out what is going on around them. This is a natural reaction from when people slept outside and were constantly surrounded by threats and being aware of the sounds that were going on around them when they were lieing down could mean the difference between life and death. However, this flight or fight reaction to foreign sounds makes it hard to settle down and fall asleep. Which is necessary if a person plans on being out of their hotel for a long day the following day sightseeing and trying to take in another culture as much as possible.

 

This is just one change that a person has to adjust to while travelling. For example, European girls are a completely different species to the North American female. Europeans live a completely different lifestyle with far more walking than exists in the sedientary North American way of life. In addition, the smaller helping size in European cities results in a thinner size. However, European girls are also less likely to smile and have any external signs of warmth. When smiled at they are less likely to smile back. In addition, they are very abrupt in the service industry and will conserve words like people conserve water in other areas of the world. As if they are worried about a shortage of words and will not waste their words needlessly in any attempt to show friendliness. Consequently Europeans tip their wait staff less money, and therefore, the waitresses and waiters may not feel that being friendly is in their best interest compared to trying to get people to go through as quickly as possible so that they can serve more people. In addition, there are more attractive females in Europe therefore, the power, prestige and social capital that comes with being an attractive female is greatly reduced. As a result they often settle for guys who seem to be not as fit of mates as they are, whether because the males are not as attractive as a whole or simply because they are not as well dressed and are quite slobberish. Another interesting fact to note here is that despite the unemployment there are alot of clothing stores and many fashionably well-dressed females. Groceries being cheap such as two litres of water being purchaseable for 16 cents and abundant cheap delicious fruit may play a factor here. The female species in Europe are rarely sighted alone and are usually seen in either groups or with a male partner who they are much more openly affectionate with than their North American neighbour often making out in the street or in the subway station. Is this because they do not have as much room in their homes for this kind of behaviour or is it simply a cultural thing, this sociological phenomenon deserves some more research. 

In addition, females at the beach seem to not be as concerned with the fashion code and will go topless at any old beach instead of only at nude beaches like their North American cousin would. To a casual observer it is a relief that most of the people at the beach on the whole tend to be of the younger age and therefore, their nudity is less unbecoming and more welcomed.

 

Furthermore another interesting phenomon is the closeness of restaurants. the North American will distribute their restaurant less frequently beside one competitor and across from another. That is partly due to their obsession with their car culture and therefore leave more room for parking their car. Therefore, there is much pushier promoters trying to get people to come into their stall instead of their neighbours often with the exact same menus. Offering small rudimentary prizes for choosing their product. In addition, they seem to not offer anything free in general and expect people to pay for the bread rolls they get as well as the butter. While the North American restauranters seem to think giving away these items free of charge is part of the price of doing business. Perhaps this suggests some kind of abundance of wheat and diary not existing in Europe.

End of travel log.